10 April 2013

The "To Do" List

As you can see, my order at Baskin Robins isn’t the only thing that’s grown around here these days.  I laugh when I think back to my initial months of pregnancy; I wanted that bump to show up so badly. First time pregnant folk are a funny breed.  We hope to see the belly grow at lightening speed. (Let's just generalize here so I can make myself feel better). We start to anticipate any signs of nausea, and we secretly get excited when it arrives, saying, “Ahh, everything is working as it should.” And while we analyze and encounter all our new bodily changes with childlike wonder, something else is taking place in these fleeting 40 weeks.  It is this kind of “divinely-alloted” time to prepare the heart and head for becoming a parent.  As soon as I saw that second pink line, I began tuning my eyes and ears to every encounter between moms and their little ones, taking mental notes along the way.  Thankfully, I don’t have to look too far for amazing examples. There’s my mom: master at making things beautiful, jolly jokester, boisterous laugher, great listener, and queen of empathy. My mother-in-law: maker of my favorite person, pioneer of patience, undying sentimentalist, inviter of story telling, and also a great listener.   Beyond these examples, I’ve learned tons from my friends who are already moms.  I’ve even gained wisdom from some of my friends’ moms. I guess in a way I’ve been taking notes for longer than I thought. One story in particular springs to mind.  I had a friend in college who played on the soccer team, and while watching the game one day, I heard a chant coming from the sideline, “Run, baby, run, baby, run!”  There she was…his mom, running alongside her son from the sidelines and screaming for him like he was five.  I laughed at the proud public display, and I secretly placed it on that proverbial list of mommy qualities I admire.   

 So, here it is…my first mommy “To Do” list.

1.) Commit to follow the Gospel in word and deed
2.) Love Andy (You know, do the things we’ve always done…meet him at the door  when he gets home from work, etc.)
3.) Read to the little bean every night.
4.) Cheer the loudest.
5.) Encourage togetherness, community and doing for others.
6.) Respond instead of react.
7.) Speak lovingly.
8.) Discipline consistently.
9.) Wash my hands of fear by putting germs (and other scary things) in their rightful place.
10.) Speak at least two languages at home: English and Laughter.

Of course this list, like me, is subject to change once I ACTUALLY become a mom. Oh, and don't forget to hug yo mama today. ;)

04 April 2013

Fun Size Living

Last year, Andy and I had our eyes on a brand new house.  We did the Sunday afternoon drive-by a dozen times and dreamt about coffee on the porch, kids playing in the backyard, walk-in closets (more my dream than his), and all the extra square footage we don't have in the condo.  Sure, we would have to borrow some funds, be strapped to our jobs, and stress each month to make ends meet, but we wanted the dream!  We were living in a 780 square foot, one-bedroom condo in the heart of Buckhead…a beautiful space, but definitely NOT the scene to start our family.  Since we all agree on this matter, I will tell you that we tried our best to make the dream happen.  BUT, the obstacles grew with each step in dreamland.  Our current “bungalow” appraised for FAR less than we owed; our down payment could fit into a small child’s piggy bank, and we were #126 on a waiting list to lease.  The odds had mounted.  It was at this point, accepting defeat, that we decided to put off having a baby and just wait for our lives to start.  Well, we can skip all the will-bending and heart-molding that went on and cut to the chase, make a long story short... I am writing this from our 780 square foot space and patiently awaiting the birth of our first, due in the next TWO weeks.  Suffice it to say, we had a change of perspective.  Where in the world did we get the idea that we needed more space to have more joy?  Hadn’t we already shared two AMAZING years of small-ish space living?  Aren’t there people all around the world who live in much smaller spaces with out a single complaint?  We had decided to just live, be content with what we have, and seek immeasurable joy in our measurable space. Okay, we're ready for you, third roommate.